The man is no longer the villain

posted on: Jan 30 2012 10:12 by RDugey. Viewed 19 times.

Although the young Richard Nin is not part of the men assaulted by their partners, warns that if a girlfriend or his wife will fly him him "broken head". According to his words, would not go to denounce the but that "the agredería and her soltaría band". Despite this, about eight percent of men of the Santo Domingo province not acting as it proposes to Nin, but they become victims of violence at the hands of their women.

This time the roles are invested and no woman will interpret the role of victim. Now the man takes over the leading role, one that no one should interpret.

Problems
of agreement with perfect Acosta, Attorney of the Office of the Prosecutor of the province Santo Domingo, a few years ago men not within complaints when they were threatened or assaulted by their wives, but today the situation has changed.

"After the entry into force of the law 24-97 and" u000a"to open up the centers of attention to cases of violence already flocking to lodge complaints and the number of cases may be five, an eight and up to ten percent", says Acosta.

Ozama, Martín Peguero, widening gender violence coordinator confirms Acosta Declaration to affirm that in their unit they receive 850 to 900 complaints per month and of those eight percent corresponds to men against women.

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what he says law 24-97
Art. 309-2. Is domestic or intra-family violence any pattern of behavior through the use of physical force or psychological and verbal violence, intimidation or persecution, against one or more members of the family or any person to maintain a relationship of coexistence against the spouse, ex, cohabitant or exconviviente or consensual partner, or the person with whom there is born a son or a daughter to cause physical or psychological harm to his person or u000adamage to their property, carried out by the father, mother, guardian, guardian, spouse, ex, exconviviente or consensual partner, or person bass whose authority, protection or care is family.

The perpetrators of the offences set forth in the two articles above shall be punished with the penalty of one year in prison, at least, and five more, and fine of five hundred to five thousand pesos and the restitution of property destroyed, damaged and hidden if it is the case.

Mamitas or victims of the worst machismo?
"Often get complaints when women beaten up, but it is the case that they assaulted first." "Another situation occurs when both are perpetrators", emphasizes Peguero.

While Zunilda Tavares, fiscal Coordinator of the Department of families and children, ensures that every month come men to bring complaints against their partners and that there are female detainees for violence

"Are the less but" u000a"there are and the same considerations are taken to condemn them," says Tavares.

The types of attacks may vary among the physical, verbal and heritage. Perfect Acosta says that sometimes it can be reconciled when statements were made by the prosecutors.

"Aggression can come because the man leaves the House or do not want to go, incompatibility of character, or because there are property." "Another case occurs by irresponsibility," said Acosta.

For Zunilda Tavares, the aggressions of the women their husbands constitute domestic violence. "Are they covered by the Act and carry the same penalty." There are men who are beaten and stabbed by their partners, usually come here aruñados. "Some is also autogolpean and say they were husbands," he confesses.

Profile of the victim
Gladys Cedeño, responsible for statistics of the prosecution, recalled a case in which wife poured you hot water to her husband and when u000aThey asked him the name of it he said that it was not going to say because he didn't want to hurt him the mother of his daughter.

Employees of the Prosecutor's Office reveal that many times when a man comes to make a complaint, the police call him "Mommy" and ask why is left to provide for women

But the situation goes beyond. According to Tavares, the man assaulted generally not mistreats her partner, although there are cases in which aggression is by reaction of women to violence.

"There are many who do not come by shame or machismo, but this has been corrected because we try to give them equal treatment," said Tavares.

Ana Mirtha Vargas, a clinical psychologist, ensures that men abused by their wives have a profile of emotional dependent, that their expectations of love and attention have become pathological: "They have a tendency to tolerate humiliating situations and have little confidence in itself" u000a"same".

While women assaulted because of jealousy, alcohol, lack of money or the need to exercise control. "They are people who want to impose their will." "Can also be a sadomasochistic game in which the two assault on an ongoing basis," expressed Vargas.

Causes
Zunilda Tavares ensures that cases of women who are are "they drink or play money that men give for the House".

The fact that violence against men is still a taboo is, according to Tavares, the law was made to protect women, which was then the main victim of violence.

Sociologist Ramón Tejeda, points out that which does not denounce her partner to justice due to sexism in society. "We have seen cases of women who kill men or even them have penis." "Abuse the man is a reality".

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possible solutions

the u000aProsecutor Tavares believes that it must educate the family and teach that in any relationship there must be mutual respect.

While Martin Peguero exposes only processes a three per cent of complaints, but that the Prosecutor's Office does not have the mechanism nor the staff to give follow-up to.

La psychologist Vargas seek professional support to the man to submit this type of situation, so that you can work the relationship the low self-esteem, the insecurities.

Ramón Tejada ensures that Dominican youth is learning to live as a couple and the men and women are more integrated.

"I have the impression that there is still a large segment who believes that man becomes man having many Affairs;" must be reached with experiences to marriage and male infidelity is something necessary.

But I am sure that they are becoming less and that increasingly more people laying horizontal relationships more u000a"egalitarian", emphasizes Tejeda.

Statistics
in January 2011 for a total of 794 complaints received, 630 were made by women and 164 men.

In February 2011 for a total of 843 complaints received, 748 were made by women and 95 men.

In March of 2011 for a total of 801 complaints received, 668 were made by women and 133 for men

In April 2011 for a total of 701 complaints received, 578 were made by women and 123 by men.