The other victims

For 18 years, Carla (fictional name) lived a hell in his own House. All that time was married to a man who submitted to abuse psychological.

Carla, an economically self-sufficient, professional endured those nearly two decades of abuse to prevent their children pass through the pain of a separation.

"You have a psychological pressure that children must grow with the father," said the woman who had three children with her attacker, "but then it's themselves that you should leave it".

In fact, when three years Carla decided to put an end to its tortuous marital relationship, did thinking about itself and its offspring. His two daughters, reason today, would assume as valid a man to mistreat them; the check, in turn, would grow up with the idea that it is normal that a man abuses his partner.

"I was getting divorced to give life to my children", says Carla, who could not prevent them to their children the u000atrauma of being interviewed - there is a special protocol to take the depositions of the minor - as part of the process initiated against her husband for domestic violence.

"These children said things that I neither knew that they had seen or that they knew," recalls Carla. "It is very hard to put their children to spend all of those things".

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Abuse indirect, but very REAL
although they had not seen their parents reach courts as witnesses of violence children of Carla already had suffered enough. As explained by Sarai Ogando, a psychologist and family therapist in the cases of women mistreated (Pacam) assistance Board of Trustees, the simple fact of living in a home where there is gender-based violence places minors in position of victims.

"At times, if they have not received the damage directly, tend to minimize the effects", says the expert, "but when they are witnesses to the situation of violence that is taking place in his home, also" u000a"there is a mistreatment".

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